FOR a long time, I thought wellness meant being the calm and regulated one.
The grounded one. The capable one.
The woman who could hold a lot — quietly — without needing much.
And maybe that worked … until it didn’t.
Because eventually I realised I wasn’t living in my body. I was managing it.
Managing my energy.
Managing my reactions.
Managing the room.
Managing the version of me everyone expected.
I didn’t need a better routine.
I needed a truer relationship with myself.
This is the kind of realisation that sits within the book I’m releasing — the part people don’t always see from the outside: the slow shift from “I’ll cope” to “I want to come home to myself.”
Not dramatically.
Not perfectly.
Just honestly.
A lot of women I know aren’t burnt out because they’re doing nothing for themselves.
They’re burnt out because they’re doing all the right things … from the wrong place.
From pressure.
From performance.
From proving.
So even rest becomes a task.
Even self-care becomes something to get right.
If you’ve ever felt that, you’re not alone.
The One Practice I Return To…
When I’m scattered, short-fused, or feel like I’m “fine” but not really… I return to this:
The 90-Second Body Check-In
You don’t need silence. You don’t need incense. You don’t need a full meditation.
Just 90 seconds.
Hand to chest or belly.
Ask: “What am I feeling — without editing it?”
Ask: “What do I need in the next hour, not the next year?”
Choose one tiny action that meets the need.
Water. A walk. A boundary. A message asking for help. A no.
That’s it.
Not a transformation.
A return.
It’s not a concept. It’s a practice.
How Is This Tied to Motherhood?
Motherhood doesn’t just change your schedule.
It changes your nervous system.
It asks you to hold more, feel more, respond more — often without enough space to be held yourself.
And over time, many women become experts at functioning… while quietly disappearing.
This work — the real work — is learning to be present without abandoning yourself.
That’s the thread I’ll keep pulling here.
If you’re feeling this like this resonates, let me know and share with a friend. I’m looking forward to connecting with you more on these topics. - March 21, 2026
